breaking myths and why it’s not about hating men



Saying the word “feminism” alone tends to elicit different reactions depending on who you are talking to. Talk to someone who still makes jokes like “why aren’t you in the kitchen” (and not in an ironic way) and their lips will likely curl at the word. They think you’re about to rip your bra off, throw fire at them and all these other angry women will suddenly pop up, ready to rumble a revolution (as if the word itself could make them all happen. these things ).

Now talk to somebody a little more wake up, and you can actually have a decent conversation. Where are the inequalities still? Why does every gender of baby reveal who shows up on my social media always glows light blue for boys and powder pink for girls anyway?

Talk to a real feminist and you will have really interesting conversations. Pro tip: They’ll probably ask you what kind of feminism you are referring to, because there are levels in this game. Post-feminism or neo-feminism? For now, let’s stick to the basics.

In my opinion, writes Ashleigh Nefdt of Cape {town} Etc, the biggest problem with feminism in general is that most people don’t really understand what the larger school of thought is, and people very easily twist things. I read an article published by the BBC which said that fewer people call themselves feminists. It figures, I thought cynically – because a lot of people think it’s outdated.

Of course, we have progressed in society fairly healthily, but not completely. Just think of #MeToo to understand why we still need feminism. Since it just happens to be Women’s Month, there’s never a bad time to do sleuthing in some debunking attempt. So, I’m going to remove a few myths about feminism so that the next time it comes up in the conversation, you know more than yesterday. I’ll say it again: it’s Women’s Month, so this could be a handy body of knowledge to take in your back pocket.

What is feminism in the broad sense?

Feminism, or feminist theory is a social theory. There are tons of sub-theories, sub-theories, and star-shaped theories out there because the thinking never really stops. In short, feminism is the general belief in socio-political and economic equality of the sexes.

Myth: feminism aspires to female superiority

No. In terms of general feminist theory, the above thought literally conflicts with its definition. The reason people compare feminism to the denigration of men comes from some more radical feminists who honestly had to do powerful things then, and even now. However, radicals are a bunch of people, not the whole theory itself. Think of it like this: we’re playing 30 Seconds. We know the rules of the game, but there is this friend who has a bone to choose from with the others (for personal reasons) and takes things to the extreme, throwing the table top because you have exceeded the limit. hourglass. Now, does that experience define 30 seconds, or how did your friend play it? The last. Feminism and the way people embrace it work the same way.

But what about statements like to break the patriarchy? We are talking about the ideals that keep women’s equality stagnant.

Feminists reject femininity

A myth. As a Royal Examiner says it: there is more than one way to be a feminist. You can strut the streets in sky-high heels and be a feminist. You can be someone who only uses high heels as a weapon while still being a feminist. You might be a man who thinks those same sky-high heels look painful enough to walk in and still be a feminist. Feminism has a bit of a reputation that feminists go against everything classically feminine. It isn’t – it dates back to the earliest waves of feminism, where women weren’t taken seriously unless they adjusted to male energy.

Feminism is only for girls

Again, no. Feminism is not a gender. Even if it did, it still wouldn’t apply to girls only. A lot of the men in your life might take feminist action without even realizing it. I once saw a little boy at the beach giving his boogie board to a younger girl when all the other boys were ignoring him. This little act is an opportunity. I don’t think the young buck had a clue what he was doing was feminist-esque. Anyone can be a feminist.

Overall, feminism is all about bringing societal issues to the fore. Not everyone says men should lie in a bin of grief. What they say is: if there is a wound in society, as if it was on a body, we would focus on giving a little more care to the wound so that it is also healthy than the whole body. We pay special attention to societal injustices, like the inequality of women, so that society, in short, can be healthier.

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